Sunday, September 16, 2012
Single mom for a week.. the in's and out's.
I was nervous, I haven't been alone in a long time... in charge of the money spent, the kids, everything. Ryan asked me well over a couple months ago if I would mind if he went to Florida, with work as a client needed 2 Support Staff (had to be bigger men) to go with him and his family to Disney World.
As Ryan has never been to Florida, let alone Disney world: I said he legit would be stupid if he didn't go. As the date came closer, and closer: I had to deal with the fact that for 5 days I would be husband-less, and then I looked at the brighter side of the equation.
I learned a lot over the 5 days Ryan was having a great time in Florida:
- I am a clean person, my house was perfectly clean for 5 straight days
- I like private time to do laundry
- I wash the dishes after every meal, its cleaner: I don't like when they pile up
- I enjoyed having my own time, to putter around our house, to clean up the floor while the kids were at school, to find no pop cans anywhere :)
-We ate at home but one night for dinner, Thursday we went to McDonalds
-I didn't have to share anytime with the kids, they were allllll mine
-I didn't have to share the TV, and watch stupid Ryan shows
-The little break made me miss him so much, so we had Skype date one evening
-Our minivan was kept super clean all week
-When he surprised the kids when we were at the Great Wolf Lodge, it was the best reaction I have ever seen. Owen opened the door and said, "surprise" :)
-I missed someone to talk to about my day
-I missed venting about issues with the kids: especially the Resource Teacher issue ;)
-Ryan had brutal Internet connection, so when Owen was trying to message him it never went through, which made me a sad mom for him.
-I had a hard time trying to explain where Ryan was to the kids: and if I showed them on the Internet, they would have been pissed.
-I don't do "dad" stuff, he is the "fun" parent I am the "organized, structured, warrior parent".. we can't do it all, lol.
-The house is back to being a disaster where ever my dear husband goes, I have already cleaned up 4 coke cans, 1 dirty plate, 1 dirty cereal bowl, 1 dirty shower towel, and closed about 5 cupboards.
-The car is dirty with rugby shit already.
I came from a mom who (is my youngest years) was a single mom, worked her butt off at the paper mill in Thorold, shift work. I lived at my nanas, aunts, or grandparents on the weekend while she worked shift work: but she did it. My dad was hardly ever in the picture (deadbeat), so I know in some level whats it like. I have to say, that having the kids to myself for the week and having a life to myself, was awesome. I liked having all the time in the world with the kids, but a benefit I had was I had the week off work: I would guarantee that being back to work, and trying to figure this life out with 3 children would be soooo much harder, a lot less roses: very different then the life we had this past week. I have a lot of friends in my life that live like this 24/7, and I give them the up most respect for what they do everyday, it is no easy task, and they are amazing women.
I will be honest, if there was one thing I learned at the end of this week: even though he makes a lot of mess and drinks an excessive amount of coke, I still really really like when he's around.