Owen and Ben's Journey Through Autism

Owen and Ben's Journey Through Autism

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Embracing the Spins.




I remember with Owen, we took on the idea, "why try and control their Autistic world, we should enter it". When Owen would spin, we would spin. When Owen would line his In The Night Garden toys up, we would line ours up and smash them over to the ground. When Owen would visual stim through the poles on the playground, we would look through the poles as well - we did our best to enter his world, and it made us better for it.

Today, Ryan entered Ben's world. Ben was in the best mood ever, and despite Ryan and I having an emotional stressed out weekend, the kids have no clue - they yet can not catch on, thank goodness. Their internal clock as been off balance because we pushed the clocks up an hr, so they all slept in and woke up in amazing moods.

Ben especially - he was taking his fridge toy he got from his siblings for his birthday, and he held it to his ear humming with the ABC song, and then he started to spin in the middle of our living room, using his visual stim as he spins - he was so happy. So, Ryan entered his world and he spun.

I loved watching how happy this made Ben, his dad was spinning with him. As I watched them both with big smiles on their faces, it brought me right back to watching Owen and Ryan spin in the living room 2 years previous and I felt completely at peace. Even though we have had a rough weekend with things we can not control, watching my little Ben spin with his dad took it all away.

It made me think how innocent and how beautiful it is for these children that as of right now, don't understand the concept of stress, the reality of all the stresses and choices life has to offer - not fully realizing what makes us as Adults truly happy - but just a spin with their dad brings all the joy in the world to my boys - and I could watch it all day, and bask in their beautiful innocence.

6 comments:

  1. You are a great writer Vanessa. Your approach and love is admirable and beautiful. <3 Hannah

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  2. oxox thank you so much!! oxoxox Love to you both.

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  3. Great idea....never thought of that! Another reason you are awesome parents!

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